Monday, November 9, 2009

A Trip Down the Rabbit Hole - Destination: Gilead


One of my daughter's friends just recommended that she read "The Handmaid's Tale." I have posted on this before, but this brought it all back and made it fresh.

Lately, I have been trying to parody Glenn Beck, so let me put on my tin-foil hat and let's go down a rabbit hole together for a scare-the-hell-out-of-you bad dream. (Links are to prior blog posts.)

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The Handmaid's Tale" is a story that floored me. I saw elements of Mormonism running like a thread through the whole movie. I realized, once again, that if you put religionists (Christian extremists) on a scale of 1-10 and put "The Handmaid's Tale" at 10, the Mormon Church and dozens of Evangelical and Baptist mega-churches would be at a 9. It was a familiar feeling that I had had before, right after the movie, "September Dawn." When the Mountain Meadows Massacre happened back in 1857, the Mormons were functioning at a 10 on the religionists dial and only turned the notch down to 9 in order to get statehood.

Now for the most frightening part, which is what sets the Mormons apart from the other Christian extremists. On June 28th, 2008, when the Mormon prophet ordered the letter to be read from the pulpit that ordered "every Mormon to give of their time and means" to pass Prop 8, it became irrefutable evidence that the Mormon prophet could give a damn about the US constitution. It was the equivalent of setting the extremism dial to a 9.5 because it moved the 21st century "Mormon Colonies" over the top, right into the realm of the imaginary "Republic of Gilead." It was evidence that the Mormons are not that far removed from 1857. It showed us that in the 21st century, six million Mormons would willingly follow the prophet if he were to turn that dial, once again, to a 10.

If I were as good as Glenn Beck, and if the "left" had the same tin-foil hats as the "right", I could get you all to imagine a "Republic of Gilead" that is lurking, waiting to spring into existence behind the Zion Curtain. (Quick, hand me the Vicks "Vapo-rub" so that I can rub it under my eyes and break into fake tears now.)

[Now with tears in my eyes...] Imagine a Branch Dividian Compound from Mesa, AZ to Rexburg, ID and you get the idea of the size of the Mormon's "Republic of Gilead." In essence, this "Mormon Republic of Gilead" already exists.

At this point, I need to take you all to the surface and get you out of the rabbit hole.

These tears in my eyes now are not fake. In Utah, 52% of the homeless teens are gay. In Utah, the suicide rate for gay teens is 8 times the national average. For a 14-year-old gay Mormon behind the Zion Curtain, the walls surrounding his world are as real as they were in "The Handmaid's Tale." I know. I was that 14-year-old, and my walled-in universe was the "Mormon Colonies" of Southern Alberta, Canada. I saw no escape. Like Micah in "September Dawn," I had given myself over to "the system." I put my authentic self up on a shelf and watched somebody else live their life in my body. This is how I identified with "The Handmaid's Tale."

Sometimes I try to shake my head and get the "tin-foil hat" to come loose, but it doesn't. I still feel the fear of my captivity coming back. I realize that Proposition 8 was the only evidence I need to convince me that the Mormons are ready...and able...to turn the dial up to 10, and there are a number of other Christianist churches who are willing to be uncomfortable bed-fellows with the Mormons in order to have their own enclaves for their own chance at their version of a "Republic of Gilead."

I give my head a shake again, but "tin-foil hat" is stuck. These 21st century Christianists have friends in high places. At the top is "The Family," on C Street in Washington, DC. They are the equivalent of the "Mormon Generals" for the Evangelicals and Baptists. They have their own TV network and every night on the news parade their celebrities like Glenn Beck, Sarah Palin, Virginia Fox, and Michelle Bachman across the screen. They have enough money to buy new followers by feeding them lies and giving them free bus rides into the big cities for shopping trips and "tea parties."

The "tin-foil hat" finally shakes loose, and I ask myself, "What can we do?"

Reed Cowan is just putting the finishing touches on a documentary "8: The Mormon Proposition" in order to have it ready for the Sundance Film Festival. Please visit their website at http://mormonproposition.com and get ready to see the movie. It exposes a religion that is ready to move the dial...and roll the clock back a hundred and fifty years...to pre-statehood Utah. All in the name of an extremist view of god, and in order to usher in the the "New Republic of Gilead."

Thursday, September 3, 2009

Media Studies from a Sociological View

Why I am back in school studying Multimedia Journalism. This pretty much sums it up.

excerpt:
"...if a sociological light is brought to bear on the media...a lively study of culture which is informed by a seriousness of moral and cultural purpose of a kind that is inconceivable from the point of view of cultural studies [is possible.]
"...sociology is not happy just to describe and explore what exists. [It is] driven by a sense of moral commitment and by a moral outrage at what presently passes for a good life;...
"...seek to know why things happen. ...develop an argument for why things ought to have happened differently in the past or could be made to happen differently in the future. ...refuse to take anything at all for granted. ... Sociology can in principle rescue the media ... from the trivialization to which they are otherwise all too susceptible.
"If a sociological imagination is brought to bear on the question of the media and their impact on cultural and moral values, then it is potentially possible to encourage people to think about the media for themselves. People in principle will be able to develop their own attitudes towards the media rather than simply accept what they are told."

Tester, Keith. Media, Culture and Morality. London: Rouutledge, 1994, pp. 4-5

Friday, August 28, 2009

"Skinny Legs and All" - by Tom Robbins


This is a great excerpt that speaks volumes of my own personal experience:

A longing for the divine is intrinsic in Homo Sapiens. (For all we know, it is innate in squirrels, dandelions, and diamond rings as well.) We approach the Divine by enlarging our souls and lighting up our brains. To expedite those two things may be the mission of our existence.

Well and good. But such activity runs counter to the aspirations of commerce and politics. Politics is the science of domination, and persons in the process of enlargement and illumination are notoriously difficult to control. Therefore, to protect its vested interests, politics usurped religion a very long tme ago. Kings bought off priests with land and adornments. Together, they drained the shady ponds and replaced them with fishtanks. The walls of the tanks were constructed of ignorance and superstition, held together with fear. They called the tanks "synagogues" or "churches" or "mosques."

Wednesday, August 26, 2009

A great analysis on what a "pathology" can be.

This is a post on the extremist views of religious fundamentalists, and how they put "purity" up on a pedestal. In his weekly column this week, Wayne Besen illustrates how this is a "pathology" because a preacher will extol the virtues of "purity" and then in the next breath tell their congregants that they will always "fall short." This ensures that they continue to beat themselves up and keep coming to church to find "repentence." Before I link you to Wayne Besen's article, I would like to tell you a little about an organization that makes frequent use of the words "pathology" and "purity."

This is what NARTH (National Association for Research and Therapy of Homosexuality) published on their web page in August 2009.


The American Psychological Association (APA) and other mental health organizations have objected to providing psychological care to those who are distressed by unwanted homosexual attractions on a number of grounds. These objections include scientifically unsupportable claims that:
1. There is no conclusive or convincing evidence that sexual orientation may be changed through reorientation therapy.
2. Efforts to change sexual orientation are shown to be harmful and can lead to greater self-hatred, depression, and other self-destructive behaviors.
3. There is no greater pathology in the homosexual population than in the general population.
I am in the process of researching out a response to NARTH's counterclaim, but for this blog post I want to focus your attention on point #3...about "pathology."

Wikipedia defines a pathology as "the study and diagnosis of disease." I guess what that means from NARTH's position (but NOT from the APA position) is that homosexuality is a disease that propogates other psychological diseases, or "pathologies." In their response to the APA report NARTH writes the following:

"An objective synthesis of the clinical and research literature derived from
hundreds of sources reveals numerous scientific findings:


    • Despite knowing the AIDS risk, homosexuals repeatedly and pathologically
      continue to indulge in unsafe sex practices.
    • Homosexuals represent the highest number of STD cases.
    • Many homosexual sex practices are medically dangerous, with or without
      protection.
    • More than one-third of homosexual men and women are substance abusers.
    • Forty percent of homosexual adolescents report suicidal histories.
    • Homosexuals are more likely than heterosexuals to have mental health
      concerns, such as eating disorders, personality disorders, paranoia, depression,
      and anxiety.
    • Homosexual relationships are more violent than heterosexual relationships.
Societal bias and discrimination do not, in and of themselves, contribute to the majority of
increased health risks for homosexuals. The usual hypothesis is that societal discrimination against homosexuals is solely or primarily responsible for the development of this pathology. However, specific attempts to confirm this societal discrimination hypothesis have been
unsuccessful, and the alternative possibility—that these conditions may somehow be related to the psychological structure of a homosexual orientation or consequences of a homosexual lifestyle—has not been disconfirmed.

Indeed, several cross-cultural studies suggest that this higher rate of psychological disturbance is in fact independent of a culture's tolerance of—or hostility toward—homosexual behavior. We believe that further research that is uncompromised by politically-motivated bias should be carried out to evaluate this issue.

A client's desire to prevent or cease experiencing such a variety of serious medical, psychological, and relational health risks is sufficient reason for anyone to seek and receive competent psychological care to minimize or resolve the desires, behaviors and lifestyles associated with such increased risks. The concerns of parents, family members and friends of persons whose sexual behaviors and/or attractions leave him or her at risk for such harms are understandable and scientifically justified. Mental health professionals ethically may offer psycho-educational and therapeutic assistance to families with such concerns in a manner that respects their loved one's age-appropriate needs for autonomy, self-determination, and confidentiality and that otherwise preserves the integrity of the therapeutic relationship."


Just like the Klu Klux Klan would probably consider a study of the "pathology" that creates the "angry black man" stereotype to be "politically motivated," NARTH will reject any study that is based on the assumption that a man could be born "gay." NARTH (like the KKK,) will not concede that if you deny a class a people status as "human beings," then you just might be putting them at a disadvantage for generations to come. (At least the slaves achieved the status of being 3/5's of a person, but only because their owner wanted their share of taxes and additional voting power. The KKK has never conceded them any status to this day.) I will never pretend that my plight as a gay man is even comparable to the centuries of suffering for the slaves, but it makes my blood boil when a privileged white heterosexual Christian male tries to argue that women, people of color, immigrants, and the GLBT community need to just "get over it."

What the APA said in their recent published findings (after an exhaustive two year study of every piece of research out there) is that it is "unethical" to try to tell a patient that his/her feelings are things that he/she are making up in their head. Worse than unethical, it should be illegal! The report is as exhaustive as any science will ever produce, but NARTH is not about science. NARTH is about religion, which is, by its very nature, incompatible with science! They cannot admit that science has now proven that these feelings define a person from birth to be who they are. Trying to change that through therapy will create any number of pathologies that NARTH extolled in the list above, which is what Wayne Besen's article (below) expands on.

I am a noun. I was born a homosexual. I have never known any other feelings than those that I now have. I didn't "learn" this attraction to men as a result of my childhood environment or from any sexual abuse as a child (which NARTH still claims in the above link.) I had originally thought that the Mormon Church had backed away from doing this, but a footnote at the above NARTH link reminds the reader on what the proper use of the word "homosexual" is...that it is NEVER to be used as a noun. Just recently the mailing address for NARTH changed from California to Utah. That wasn't a coincidence.

In closing, please read Wayne Besen's essay on "The Pathology of Purity."

Please note that the essay features a prominent reference to "The Family," which is at the pinnacle of the "right to privilege" for white, heterosexual, Christian men. The very existence of "The Family" is to ensure that this "privilege" is retained through powerful political means.
Link here.

Sunday, August 23, 2009

Examples of Designer Viruses

As related in the prior blog post, nothing is quite so insidious as a virus that was deliberately planted in order to control and manipulate the lives of others. If one is willing to look objectively at the foundations of every world religion, the implications are frightening.

Although it is almost never done, there is one thing that should be done by every person who follows a religious belief system, and that is to look back at the very roots of your own religion and see how the mind viruses were shaped and implemented so that they became more and more effective. Once perfected, these mind viruses will control the congregation and spread themselves to others in the general public. At their worst, these designer viruses reach the point of absolute authority and are never questioned. In the case of Jim Jones, it was an especially effective designer mind virus that inspired people to kill their babies, family members and friends, before they committed suicide themselves.

Here is another very recent example of a fundamentalist Baptist pastor who is attempting to use a designer virus.

Pastor Steven Anderson of Faithful Word Baptist Church in Tempe, AZ is calling for the execution of gays. No joke. Listen to the two recordings at the link below and tell me whether this guy is spreading every bit as much hate as the Taliban in Afghanistan...and we sent our soldiers into that country in order to suppress THEIR free speech when it crossed the line into hate.

http://www.akawilliam.com/audio-arizona-pastor-calls-for-the-execution-of-gays/

This guy is actively planting a "designer mind virus" into the Tempe, AZ community and there needs to be a law to suppress that kind of activity. Based upon what his own YouTube posts report, the pastor is going door-to-door spreading his "true Bible" message, which includes putting homosexuals to death! It is putting the lives of American citizens into jeopardy. We all know that the lunatic Fred Phelps barely has one foot outside of an insane asylum, but this guy in Tempe, AZ is allowed to pass as a valid Baptist pastor. I did a cursory search and found no regulatory body within any Baptist assembly who were attempting to censor him or distance themselves from him. His congregation is listed in the largest on-line Baptist Church directory and he is therefore validated by other Baptist congregations.

The audio file also states this: "God Hates Barack Obama, I hate Barack Obama. I hate Him. God wants me to hate Barack Obama." "Someone who commits murder should get the death penalty." I guess in his warped mind President Obama is performing abortions in the basement of the White House.

So what is the connection between hate speech and terrorism? At the end of the day, we all need to realize that the most difficult form of terrorism to control is the kind that inspires one person to act alone. This kind of terrorism was successful in the following assassinations and attempted assassinations within US politics:

1) Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.
2) President John F. Kennedy
3) Robert (Bobby) Kennedy (while running for president)
4) Abraham Lincoln
5) William McKinley
6) John Garfield
7) Andrew Jackson (attempted in 1835)
8) Franklin D. Roosevelt (attempted in 1933)
9) Harry Truman (attempted in 1950)
10) Gerald Ford (attempted in 1975)
11) Ronald Reagan (attempted in 1981)
12) The bombing of the Alfred P Murrah Building by Timothy McVeigh in 1995.

And recently the lesser well-known cases:
1) Dr. Tiller (the abortion doctor,) who was shot inside his own church.
2) Officer Stephen Johns, the Smithsonian guard who was shot by an elderly anti-Semite.

Extremism incites hate, and the tool of extremist leaders is the "designer mind virus." Figuratively speaking, it allows the leaders themselves to leave a loaded gun with carefully written instructions on the table and then leave the room. The leader really is not concerned with who it is that picks up the gun, but it was fully their intent to inspire somebody... anybody... to pick up the gun and use it. The designer virus ensures that whoever does pick up the gun will follow the carefully outlined instructions of the "virus." Timothy McVeigh was defending David Koresh as his "religious leader" when he committed the most violent terrorist act ever to take place on American soil prior to Sept 11th, 2001. The bombing was done on the second anniversary of the Waco Siege. He was a man who the courts would determine "acted alone," but it clear that he had been inspired into action by a religious designer virus.

Not all designer viruses inspire hate, but rather perpetuate discriminatory laws that have outlived their time. It took more than 100 years to eradicate the designer virus out of the minds of the US elected officials before the Civil Rights Bill passed in 1964, but that virus still has a firm hold on entire regions of this country.

And now, I will make this blog personal.

Fast-forward to June 28th, 2008. The Mormon Church prophet declared through a "letter from the pulpit" in every California congregation that every faithful Mormon had a duty to see that California's Prop 8 was passed. This proclamation, a designer mind virus of the worst kind, inspired blind obedience from every faithful Mormon. It would mean that loving family members would aggressively campaign against the rights of their own siblings, which is what happened in my case. (See my brother's "Yes on Prop 8" blog, which he wrote after I pleaded with him to not campaign against my right to have the same kind of a marital relationship that he enjoys.)

Prior to the "letter from the pulpit," four of my five siblings had indicated that they supported me in my life as a gay man, with a gay partner. I had asked each of them if they would afford me the same courtesy that they did during my 24 year marriage living with my former wife, and that was to allow Mickey and I to sleep together in their home...in the guest bedroom. Four out of five said they would, and the sister who said she would not only declined because her husband was a bigot. My sister is not...or at least she wasn't until the "letter from the pulpit" came out.

Before writing his blog post my brother Fred did absolutely no research on his own about every point that he made in his blog. He simply regurgitated the "talking points" provided to him by the designer virus that his religious leaders infected his brain with. He ignored the fact that minorities who cannot control the vote are still entitled to equal treatment under the law. He also failed to validate any person in California who was not a Christian. He made the assumption that every American would naturally buy into the idea that the constitution had to ultimately answer to the Bible...which is the mother of all fundamentalist Christian "designer viruses."

Thankfully I have many allies in the on-line community and in esteemed universities around the world who are working feverishly to find an antidote for the religiously motivated designer mind viruses. Time is on our side.

Excerpt: "Virus of the Mind"


I'm reading Richard Brodie's book, "Virus of the Mind," and will be making occasional quotes as they relate to this blog. This is the first of such posts.

As you read this, please bear in mind that the extremist views of fundamentalist religions like the Mormons, traditional Baptists, and the evangelicals are all masters of spreading the designer viruses referred to in this excerpt.

[excerpt - pages 45 to 46]
"Our minds excel both at copying information and at following instructions. Remember the four characteristics of a virus:
- penetration
- copying
- issuing instructions
- spreading
They can penetrate our minds because we are so adept at learning new ideas and information. they are copied by us communicating with each other, something we are getting better and better at. Mind viruses issue instructions by programming us with new memes that affect our behavior. They spread when the chain of events stemming from that new behavior reaches an uninfected mind.

Examples of viruses of the mind range from fashion fads to religious cults. They can be any bit of culture whose existence touches people, causing them to shift their thinking and thus their behavior, eventually causing reinforcement for proliferation of that same bit of culture.

At this point I want to introduce a distinction between mind viruses that arose spontaneously and ones that were invented by human consciousness. I'll call the naturally arising ones cultural viruses and the human-crafted ones designer viruses. A designer virus is carefully crafted to infect people with a set of memes that influence them to spread the virus throughout the population.

Designer viruses and cultural viruses can be equally damaging to your pursuit of happiness, although for many people it doesn't feel as bad to have your life ruined by a natural set of circumstances as it does to have some manipulative no-goodnik get the best of you. But despite the difference in perception, the effect of these two kinds of mind viruses is the same: you unwittingly have a portion of yourself diverted from what you might otherwise be doing with your life, and instead devoted to doing the work of the mind virus.

Memetics provides new insight into the way our minds, societies, and cultures work. Rather than looking at the development of culture as a sequence of ideas and discoveries that build upon one another, what would it be like to view culture as a meme pool, where the ideas in our heads are shaped and transported by various forces, including mind viruses? How many of these viruses are already with us? Are they helping or harming us? Can we control them?

The outer reaches of this line of thought are dark and scary. However, I see much, much more potential for help than harm through understanding the mind virus. And even though it involves thinking about things in unfamiliar ways, I suggest we do whatever it takes to understand it, tame it, and put it to work for the best interest and the best interests of our children--and our children's children."
[end quote]

Thursday, July 30, 2009

Extremists Manufacture Foster Kids

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July 23rd, 2009

Children and youth are the most vulnerable to the harmful consequences of unregulated extremism, and in the interest of protecting future generations of Americans from social injustice, the time has come for our government to get involved. The type of engagement needed is not that of suppressing the free speech of the extremists, but to actually use free speech in communicating a stronger message of progressive thinking and moderation. By setting a new tone for a public message our government can educate mainstream Americans about the harmful effects of buying into extremist propaganda. The message will need to be refined and highly targeted so as to actively mute and call into question those extremist views that spread and perpetuate bigotry, oppression, and social injustice. When deciding upon which organizations, religions and public figures need to be targeted first, we need only focus on what is causing such a dramatic increase in the number of children in the American foster care systems.

The phrase “walking wounded” is perhaps the most accurate way to describe those people who are the victims of oppression, marginalization, and unjust laws. And even though the oppressors who created these walking wounded might have committed the injustices as adults, it is important to know that in most cases they did not learn their bad behavior in adulthood. Nor were the victims only victimized after their 18th birthday. Dr. Perry Hancock, as president of the Louisiana Baptist Children’s Home & Family Ministries (LBCH,) is very familiar with children in foster care. He writes:

It is both the most pervasive and the least understood form of abuse among
children. It can come from parents, teachers, coaches, ministers, and others.
The wounds from it are often hidden from sight. It is fueled by some popular
television shows and movies which promote demeaning language as an
‘entertaining’ form of communication. Some adults even minimize its potential
for harm and believe that its victims will ‘get over it’ when they grow up. The
culprit is the emotional abuse of children (Hancock 1).

As one reads this and other articles on the LBCH web pages, they understand that Dr. Hancock understands the importance of treating children well and protecting them, and it explains why we can isolate virtually every failing of our society by looking at how the evidence of past failings manifests itself in the lives of our rising generation. This evidence is most prevalent and is highly concentrated wherever you find a large number of foster children, but we need to be careful which measure we use in making our assessment. One measure that absolutely cannot be used is one that is based upon a religious belief system. They are, after all, part of the problem.

By just listening to a small sampling of youth in the foster care system a person will realize that a culture that produces walking wounded is actually the trademark of adults living at two extremes in the spectrum of society. At one end we have those cultures that hold fast to tradition. Typically, but not always, a religion is at the heart of their resistance to change. At the other end is a culture where a break from tradition has caused the pendulum to swing to the opposite extreme, and as a result, this culture wants nothing to do with any kind of regulation or constraint. At both extremes these cultures will continue to oppress and marginalize, and children are the collateral damage that nobody focuses on.

In the case of those cultures that hold fast to tradition, they will marginalize those who do not share their views and way of life. They will also fight anybody who challenges their belief system. Because the vast majority of the ruling white male population in the “south” shared this same bigoted view, America had a civil war. Dr. Perry Hancock, who was quoted earlier, is himself a product of the “south,” and when we look at another article of his posted to the LBCH website we are left to fear for those foster children being cared for within the Louisiana Baptist Children’s Home. He writes, “Just a few days ago I talked with a fourth grader who had been introduced to Darwinian evolution in a way that challenged everything we are teaching him at the Children’s Home” (Hancock 2). With the flourish of a pen (figuratively speaking,) Dr. Hancock is attempting to remove science from the life of every child in the care of the LBCH. Because of the traditions of an out-dated (and literal) belief in the Abrahamic texts, and due to an unwillingness to teach anything other than the Protestant Christian’s version of events of the last twenty centuries, the children in the care of the LBCH are at risk of growing into adults who themselves will continue the same oppression that Dr. Hancock is exerting upon them, but it gets worse. Any child at LBCH who is not convinced of the veracity of Christianity will quickly learn that in order to survive they will have to feign such a belief. Simply because they don’t believe the Baptist doctrine they will be made to feel less valued in the eyes of their caregivers and peers, but if they actually verbalize these thoughts it will get exponentially worse. The professor and author Kenji Yoshino coined the term “covering” to describe this, and he defines it as “ton[ing] down a disfavored identity to fit into the mainstream” (Yoshino 245). Covering does nothing to solve a problem. It only prevents the problem from being manifest outwardly. It would be bad enough to simply be a closeted atheist at LBCH, but for a gay or lesbian youth the feelings of shame and worthlessness go off the chart. Given the extremist views and the utter disdain for diversity that is evidenced by the writings of Dr. Hancock, it is highly probable that the LBCH will produce their fair share of adults who will be counted among the walking wounded, and this from a man who claims to understand what it means to emotionally abuse a child.

At the other end of the spectrum will be those in our culture who abhor any regulation. One of their favorite sayings is “let the cream rise to the top.” With that view comes an implied creed that those in society who are deemed the “skim milk” are only there to support the cream above them. This is the free market mentality that, over the past 26 years, set the stage for the collapse of the global economy. During this time in America, for the first time in our history, the rich got richer and the poor got poorer. After priding ourselves for generations on the wealth of our middle class we actually allowed our government to set out policy that, starting in the early 1980’s, steadily moved people from the middle class into poverty. David Bloom, an associate professor of economics at Harvard, was quoted in a June 2001 Time article as saying, “There has been a thinning of the middle class. As society becomes more polarized, it has more ‘haves’ and ‘have-nots,’ with fewer in between” (Koepp). One non-profit group in Texas predicts a 30% increase in the number of children in foster care from 2006 to 2009, which follows a 40% increase from 1999 to 2003 (Texans Care for Children). The stories of these foster children create a parallel track for an American history of government failure that will never be published. It wasn't supposed to be this way.

More than 300 years ago the first Europeans came to this continent to escape the tyranny of kings and the brutality of theocracies that had oppressed their citizens since the beginning of time. Our American constitution was written to prevent such abuses from happening within our borders, but even at that, through our own 233 year history as a nation, the evidence shows how often we have failed to honor the fact that all men are created equal. It has also failed to prevent the fundamentalist Christian majority from oppressing more moderate Christians and non-Christians. The evidence of this failing is manifest by how many walking wounded live among us today, and we know it is getting worse when you look at the kids in foster care and understand the role that extremist Christian views play in their oppression.

In Utah, the bastion of traditional Christian morality, it is estimated that fully 43% of their homeless youth (35% nationally) end up on the street because they are rejected by their biological families after they self-identify as gay or lesbian (Utah Pride Center). From September 2007 to September 2008 the Homeless Youth Drop-In Center in Salt Lake City saw a 175% increase in use (KSL). Although there is no official study on what caused such a spike, one is left to ponder whether the extremely polarizing climate surrounding Utah’s involvement in the California “Yes on Prop 8” Campaign carried some weight with it. That battle was in full array in September 2008. It was not a time in Utah where the words “progressive” and “moderate” were used very often. The Mormon prophet had dug in his heels on a message of intolerance and no fewer than five satellite broadcasts were pumped into regional conferences that were attended by hundreds of thousands of faithful Mormons. Families were split down the middle and “moderate” Mormons like the famous NFL quarterback Steve Young and his wife were vilified for supporting the “No on Prop 8” campaign with a few lawn signs and small donation (CBS). In spite of being caught in a lie about how much the church itself invested in the campaign, the federal government has done nothing to publicly condemn The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints for requiring the membership to adopt such an extremely political position that was undeniably oppressive to an entire class of people (Wright).

As good as the constitution was it has always relied upon the work of unrelenting progressives to maximize its potential. Every victory has only come after an enormous struggle against both the forces that resist change and the forces that resist regulations. In our relatively short history progressives have used the constitution to not only free the slaves from white Christian males who cited the Bible as their authority, but also to banish child labor by imposing regulations within a free market that wanted absolute freedom to maximize their profits. After winning the right to vote for women (again fighting Christian males) , it was progressives who likewise established minimum wage laws and allowed workers to unionize (again standing up against the free market forces.) But then, starting with President Reagan, we started a backward slide. Hopefully we will now witness the emergence of a political will to reverse direction one more time and see more advances in social justice reform. It will require political will, but for the sake of the rising generation it is a battle that we must not lose.

The time has come for government to get more involved in the social justice reform process and make enough of an impact that the lives of families are improved, in more ways than just income and housing. When writing about completely unregulated markets that threaten the traditional beliefs of our past, Debora L. Spar, a Harvard Business School professor and accomplished author, wrote: “These are deeply personal choices […]. The long-term effects of these choices, however, carry social costs. And thus society must have some say in how these choices are made and the extent to which they are left to private preferences and market forces. The only way to exercise this voice is through the political process” (Spar 238). Spar is neither a scientist, doctor, nor a preacher. She is a world renowned consultant for multi-national corporations, nongovernmental organizations (NGO’s) and governments, and as such she knows about the effects of free markets and restrictive traditions. Her view is that the solution lies somewhere in the middle. She is a moderate, and she is also progressive. When she wrote the above words she was specifically talking about test-tube babies, and it is notable that Spar did not state where the line in the sand needed to be drawn. She left that up to us, as members of a global community. It is time to find our voice and ensure that our leaders hear us.

In order to meet the needs of humanity, and in the process change the course of history for today’s youth and children, we must first teach people to look outside of their own family and neighborhood and become more aware...not of anything in particular, but of everything. This is the role that government can assume. Once we, as a society, figure out how to turn the eyes of our citizens outward instead of inward, a growing number of people will naturally gravitate toward one progressive cause or another. This is the mentality that Kwame Anthony Appiah was speaking of when he coined the phrase cosmopolitanism. In forecasting the kind of change that would be introduced by encouraging cosmopolitanism, Appiah wrote, “[a] creed that disdains the partialities of kinfolk and community may have a past, but it has no future” (Appiah 16). If we can bury religious fundamentalism and outdated traditions and relegate them to the history books as quaint allegories of a past era, humanity will be much better for it. By doing that, and by regulating the punishing consequences of a market that has too much invested in profit and not enough invested in people, it will allow humanity to raise a new generation of children who have far fewer emotional scars. We must reverse the trend of failing families.

Works Cited

Hancock, Dr. Perry
1) “Childhood Emotional Abuse.” Family Articles. Louisiana Baptist Children’s Home. http://www.lbch.org/articles/ChildhoodEmotionalAbuse.pdf 28 July 2009.
2) “Children in an Anti-Christian Culture.” Family Articles. Louisiana Baptist Children’s Home. http://www.lbch.org/articles/Anti-ChristianCultureDoc.pdf 28 July 2009.

LBCH.org. www.lbch.org/RCC_2009.htm 28 July 2009.

Yoshino, Kenji, “From Covering: The Hidden Assault on Our Civil Rights.” Emerging – A Reader 2nd ed. Ed. Barclay Barrios. Boston, MA: Bedford/St. Martin’s, 2009. (244-254).
Koepp, Stephen., “Is the Middle Class Shrinking?” Time. http://www.time.com/time/magazine/article/0,9171,143633,00.html 24 Jun 2001, 28 July 2009.

Texans Care for Children. “A Closer Look at the Issues.” http://www.texanscareforchildren.org/files/fostercare_reimbursement.pdf

Utah Pride Center. “Homeless Youth Pride Walk 2009 – Utah Shine.” http://www.utahpridecenter.org/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=300&Itemid=128 28 July 2009.

KSL. “Number of Homeless Youth in Utah is Growing.” KSL News. http://www.ksl.com/?nid=148&sid=4885505 24 Nov 2008, 28 July 2009.

CBS. “Steve Young’s Home Displays ‘No On 8’ Signs.” CBS5 News. http://cbs5.com/local/steve.young.prop8.2.853885.html 1 Nov 2008, 28 July 2009.

Wright, Jonathan. “Proof that the Mormon Church Broke IRS Rules?” Dallas Voice. http://www.dallasvoice.com/instant-tea/2009/01/15/proof-that-the-mormon-church-violated-irs-rules-on-prop-8/ 15 Jan 2009, 30 July 2009.

Spar, Debora L., “Designing Babies: Fixing Flaws and Pursuing Perfection.” Emerging – A Reader 2nd ed. Ed. Barclay Barrios. Boston, MA: Bedford/St. Martin’s, 2009. (212-243).

Appiah, Kwame Anthony, Cosmopolitanism: Ethics in a World of Strangers. W. W. Norton, 2006.

Tuesday, July 7, 2009

It Takes a Village

English 1101: Paper Two
June 5th, 2009

We are likely all familiar with the saying “it takes a village to raise a child,” but there is another byproduct of a village that is much less helpful to the health of a region, province, or country. Salem, MA was a village back in the 1690’s when their leaders ordered that the so-called witches be put to death, and so was Jonestown, Guyana in November 1978 when hundreds of unwilling citizens were forced to drink the purple KoolAid. Prior to September 2001, the Taliban government in Afghanistan used the isolation of their villages and the absence of technology to their advantage because their primary tool in their oppressive regime was message control. The above three examples serve to illustrate instances where outside cultures threatened the very continuance of the power and privilege that the village cultures had willingly (albeit blindly) bestowed upon a select few, and in each instance, larger and more civilized outside cultures were required in order to free the oppressed villagers and depose the self-serving leadership. Writing about cosmopolitanism, Kwame Anthony Appiah wrote “[a] creed that disdains the partialities of kinfolk and community may have a past, but it has no future” (16). While cultural heritage is important, even if only from a village, not every village culture should be allowed a continuance, and two deciding factors will always be to ask whether first, the culture in question has within it a framework that allows it to coexist with intersecting cultures, and second, is it oppressive to the lives of the people under its control.

A student of history can find examples of tribal villages on virtually every patch of land in the world. In North America, the Native Americans survived solely by governing themselves with a village style of leadership. The intersections of the diverse tribal cultures occasionally resulted in wars, but for the most part each tribe knew where they could travel, hunt, and settle without initiating such a conflict. In this case, the cultures were mostly symbiotic to the surrounding tribal cultures, and tribal members were well-served by their membership in the community. This scenario played itself out on every continent for centuries, but as time marched on clear winners emerged as an imbalance set in, with tyrannical leaders of the more powerful tribes and nations pursuing ever more power and dominion. The defeated tribal leaders had been doing nothing wrong and had only the best interests of their people at heart, but the invading forces seldom had any intention of ever allowing another culture to coexist alongside of theirs. There was no sense of a global humanity and every scenario was one of us vs. them.

Today, the struggle for survival wages on for what remains of these First Nations tribal villages. In the movie Whale Rider, writer/director Niki Caro deftly lays bare the generational conflict of an aging chief who is trying to hold onto a very different vision for his Maori village than his two sons and his grandchildren hold (Whale Rider 2002). The old chief is waiting for a prophet to come who will bring the tribe together behind him, and because his two sons failed to live up to this vision he was desperate for a grandson that could be molded into this role. Instead, he ended up with only a granddaughter. The story is resolved as Pai, the pre-teen female grandchild, wins a regional speech contest that outlines how it would not require a prophet to lead the village, but simply a desire for all of the villagers to join together behind a single purpose…not a single leader. It would be nice if every village had such a vision for themselves, but some of us are not so lucky to have been born into a winning village.

Today, in America, First Nations villages are adapting to the modern world and finding innovative ways for their cultures to coexist, but the oppressive Christian cultures that invaded them over the past centuries are not. While most Christian-centered communities have stopped burning their witches it does not mean that Christian extremists have stopped controlling the lives of people living in small towns across America. Speaking metaphorically, many de-facto “village dictators” have retained a frightening amount of control over their “towns”, declaring their own version of a jihad and nurturing an environment where misguided adherents will shoot an abortion doctor in the lobby of his own Christian church (CNN.com 2 Jun 2009). Of course, in this jihad their weapon of choice is the same Abrahamic text used by other religious terrorists and likewise, the leaders are anointed as infallible. In the Mormon villages of Utah, Idaho, Nevada, Northern Mexico and Southern Alberta, Canada, the stake president is this appointed leader. While there is a mayor who ensures that the infrastructure and administrative duties are attended to, the “message control” is fully relinquished to the will of the church, through the stake president, and it is he who can destroy lives with a word.

Perhaps the most striking example of this village mentality since the Salem Witch Trials is the 1857 Mountain Meadows Massacre in Southern Utah where 120 innocent pioneers were slaughtered. With the help of Brigham Young in far-off Salt Lake City, the village bishop and presiding stake president successfully sheltered the Mormon Church from being directly implicated, but their involvement was undeniable and it could have only happened through an enormous amount of message control. The patriarchal order of the Mormon Church is similarly powerful and it still oppresses Mormon women with a level of control that harkens back to the late 1800’s when the permission for a man to practice polygamy was a reward for a select few Mormon men who found favor in the eyes of senior church leaders. Add to that the near-literal interpretation of the Bible and you have a recipe for oppression against homosexuals and cosmopolitan freethinkers as well. Thankfully, in exchange for statehood in 1896, the Mormons gave up on the idea of a theocratically governed homeland like the Taliban had in pre-9/11 Afghanistan, but the Mormon modus operandi is identical to that of the Taliban and the consequences for disobedience are almost as severe. An unrepentant Mormon who is excommunicated would find it virtually impossible to remain in one of these villages and live a normal life. Being an “out” gay Mormon is perhaps the most visible example of such treatment, but a whisper campaign of marriage infidelity, teen pregnancy, or even drinking coffee or alcohol has destroyed thousands of lives and careers in these small Mormon towns. In the Fall 1997 edition of the Harvard University Nieman Reports, former Mormon and Arizona Republic’s Pulitzer Prize winning cartoonist Steve Benson wrote the following:

Look at an average group of Mormon followers, and what does one find? People who dress the same way down to the same underwear, follow the same leader, think the same thoughts, believe the same things, read the same books, obey the same commandments, vote the same way, fear the same enemies, oppose the same ideas, condemn the same people who don't think the same way, pay the same church, avoid the same movies, eat the same food, associate with the same people, marry the same kind, and give the same reasons for believing that God and Mormonism are one-in-the same (Benson 1997).

Any adult Mormon can tell you that a threat of mortal harm is not the only way for a powerful religious leader to exact obedience from a member of the community. Their authority is never questioned. Control within these oppressive villages is inextricably connected to the belief system, and to escape that control one is often faced with a choice of family or church. When one of Steve Benson’s cartoons in the Arizona Republic rightfully targeted then governor of Arizona, Ev Mecham, for making racial slurs, Benson’s own sister-in-law dis-invited Benson’s family from the family Thanksgiving dinner simply because Governor Ed Mecham was “one of us,” meaning he was a Mormon (Benson 1997). Forget the fact that Mecham was the first governor in history to face simultaneous onslaughts through impeachment hearings, a recall election, and a felony indictment, which was ultimately successful. Though thoroughly disgraced, his fellow Mormons were still willing to claim him as their own and come to his defense (Wikipedia). With such an over-arching reach, leaving one’s hometown and moving to a big city is not enough, and families are taught that a loved one who leaves the church has also chosen to leave the family because he will be lost to them for all eternity if he leaves the faith.

As evidenced by Steve Benson’s experience in Phoenix, AZ, the term village can also be used interchangeably for communities or classes of people within a large city, metropolitan area, or even an entire country, and even without control over the physical geography of a village the control upon the members of that group can be just as oppressive. It still boils down to us vs. them and all it takes is a carefully crafted message that one defined group is somehow worth less than the larger, more powerful group. It is this mentality that allows the mistreatment of others to take place, as expanded on in Mark Bowden’s “The Dark Art of Interrogation”. If the message is crafted well to the villagers, then it is easier to pit our largest unified class (American Christians) against the terrorists (Islamic extremists,) which in turn gave Bowden license to tolerate the use of coercion and dismiss it with a “wink” (Bowden 65). Appiah also captured this us vs. them mentality in another article entitled “Whose Culture Is It, Anyway?” In this essay he shares an account of how Lord Baden-Powell wrote in a history of his life work that “the work of collecting the treasures [of the Asante palace] was entrusted to a company of British soldiers, and that it was done most honestly and well, without a single case of looting” (Appiah 2). Perhaps it all depends upon who it is that gets to write the official version of history. It is virtually certain that the Asante people have a record of history that tells about the looting of their palace by Lord Baden-Powell and the British soldiers.

Within our own culture, and through another carefully controlled message, we continue to marginalize certain minority groups by allowing a message to spread that these disadvantaged groups have somehow chosen to remain in the slums in spite of numerous assistance programs available to them. In the impoverished Miami communities of Overtown and Liberty City the barriers to escape are almost insurmountable because nobody wants to leave their family behind. In this example, as with the example of the Mormon villages above, family and culture are interchangeable words. For the slums of our large cities in America, without broad-based support from the population outside of these oppressed enclaves, the cycle of poverty, poor education, lack of opportunity, and poor health will continue. The young people who are trapped in such a “village” are easily swayed by the sense of community promised by gangs, and yet the gangs themselves are often more rigidly defined by geographical boundaries than the slums themselves.

On the opposite end of the sliding scale of wealth you have the security of gated communities where the homogenous features are enforced by both written and unwritten codicils. These “villages of choice” allow those with money to buy their way into a culture that will provide them with the privileges that governments are unable to secure for them. When these communities want to eliminate the working class, they pass bylaws that prohibit commercial vehicles from entering the community after 6:00PM, thereby preventing somebody who owns a landscaping business from actually living there unless they can also afford the additional expense of commercial rent and a storage yard. When real estate agents want to secure the multi-million-dollar listings of an exclusive neighborhood, they are at the mercy of the homeowners to actually get those listings. If the homeowners themselves decide that prospective homeowners cannot be Jewish, African-American, Catholic, or Hispanic, they don’t actually have to write those discriminations into the bylaws. They just need to list their homes with real estate agents who share those same prejudices, and suddenly potential home showings for realtors who represent those less-desirable classes of people don’t get their phone calls returned and appointments are always missed or postponed until the other real estate agents in the area get the message as well. These exclusive neighborhoods will actively campaign against any kind of public transit expansion into their area because buses would allow the riff-raff to travel to the area.

When parents are successful in creating these controlled communities or villages, or in the case of slums, when a major city ignores the oppressed long enough that one of these “villages” are created to warehouse the poor and keep them segregated, then the true victims are the children. As noted previously, the true purpose of these villages is to control the message that penetrates into the community. Parents and other village forces control the movies that are shown in the theater and the TV and radio channels that are allowed to be turned on in the home. The electorate chooses the school board, who in turn hires the teachers and set a large portion of the curriculum. If it is a religious village then church on Sunday is elevated to the status of a mandatory activity and in the case of the Mormon villages, the week is filled with activities for the children and youth that keep their lives centered on the church. In every case the message is identical, and that is that there is a world out there that is dangerous to “us”, and we cannot succumb to the lies of “them”, which is to say, the outsiders. The threat that is constantly reinforced to the children is that the stakes are so high that to lose the battle for control of the message would mean the total loss of the village.

Works Cited

Appiah, Kwame Anthony, Cosmopolitanism: Ethics in a World of Strangers. W. W. Norton, 2006.

Whale Rider. Written and directed by Niki Caro, Produced by Tim Sanders and Jim Barnett South Pacific Pictures, 2002.

CNN.com, “Doctor Who Performed Abortions Shot to Death.” http://www.cnn.com/2009/CRIME/05/31/kansas.doctor.killed/index.html?iref=newssearch 2 Jun 2009. 5 Jun 2009.

Benson, Steve, “Good-bye to God: Editorial Cartoonist’s Journey from Jesus to Journalism – And Beyond.” Originally published in Nieman Review. Harvard University. Fall 1997 http://www.lds-mormon.com/benson2.shtml%20web%2031%20May%202009.

Wikipedia, “Evan Mecham”, http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Evan_Mecham%20web%2031%20May%202009.

Bowden, Mark, “The Dark of Interrogation.” Emerging – A Reader 2nd ed. Ed. Barclay Barrios. Boston, MA: Bedford/St. Martin’s, 2009. (31-65).

Appiah, Kwame Anthony, “Whose Culture Is It, Anyway?” Emerging – A Reader 2nd ed. Ed Barclay Barrios. Boston, MA: Bedford/St. Martin’s, 2009. (1-16).

Sunday, May 10, 2009

Patriarchal Blessings: A lesson in how to wield 'privilege' as a weapon.

In another blog of mine, in which I talked about the six realms within the Mormon Heaven, I wrote about how the Mormons (and other fundamentalist religions) use a "Reward in Heaven" as a tool in order to control the congregants. Today something happened that inspired me to write about another element of the Mormon religion that has, at its heart, the design elements for even more powerful control over faithful Mormons, and that is, the "patriarchal blessing".

I won't go into great detail about what a patriarchal blessing is, but instead I will refer to the Wikipedia link (here) if you need to read up on it before you continue in this post.

In my other blog post (link here), I wrote about how the Mormon temple ordinances are used to bestow a position of privilege. Today, Mickey and I went over to my former wife's place in Naples to take her and my daughter out for a Mother's Day brunch and wish them well on their move back to the Pacific Northwest. As part of the move, Barbara had put together two boxes of my stuff that had surfaced as she went through her storage locker in preparation for the cross-country move. Within that box was a 'favorite' picture that used to hang prominently in our living room It is a picture of the Cardston temple, where we were married "for time and all eternity" in 1981. As noted in my other blog post (linked above), this gave us enormous 'privilege', but this post is about my patriarchal blessing.

In the Mormon Church, the purple Kool-Aid is served in generous portions starting at the age of three. That class in their Sunday School (which they call the Children's Primary) begins a lifelong process that focuses on molding the children into obedient souls who will follow blindly wherever the leaders want to take them, but we all know what happens when children turn into teenagers. At that point, it requires more heavy artillery in the arsenal of weapons. That is why at about the age of fifteen, Mormon youth are expected to prepare for their Patriarchal Blessing.

In that box that I received from Barbara I found my long-forgotten Patriarchal Blessing. A quick read illustrates how effective the Mormons became with wielding the weapon of privilege. This is the opening paragraph [with my present comments in square brackets]:

"Dear Brother Lester James Leavitt, in the authority of the holy Melchizedek Priesthood I bear and in the name of our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ and as an ordained stake patriarch I place my hands on the crown of your head to seal upon you a Patriarchal Blessing as the Spirit of the Lord may direct me [this is all code for saying that it is "God" speaking through the mouthpiece of His servant] that it may be a divine testimony as you journey through life that you may gain the wonderful blessings and exaltation that is marked out for you."

To help you out with the full impact here, that paragraph promised "wonderful blessings and exaltation", and those blessings were essentially already mine by virtue of the fact that I had been born into a Mormon family and was sealed at birth to my parents for time and all eternity, all because they had been married in the temple! As if that wasn't already implied over the last dozen years in Sunday School, my patriarch made a point of spelling this out in the next paragraph.

"The Lord loves you and is mindful of you. Be very humble and prayerful in all things that you may learn through you faithfulness what steps to take and you will be guided and protected as you journey through life in completing your mission that you were sent here to do. Through your faithfulness and your obedience and diligence [I had passed an interview and been found worthy of having my patriarchal blessing, which is no small feat for a 15 year old] and your obedience in the spirit world [for which my 'reward' was that I had been born into a Mormon family] you were chosen and called and foreordained to come to this earth in this the dispensation of the fullness of times to wonderful parents who love you, to be guided and directed and to be tried and tested in the things of this life and you will be tried and tested very much so. There will be many things happen in your life and many distressing things also."

Now, you might think that is a bit hokey, but having been under the influence of the purple Kool-Aid since the age of three I was totally and utterly convinced that this man was looking into a Book of Heaven and reading what had been written for me in my future, and what he had just told me was very important:
1) I had been chosen in Heaven, so I already had "privilege" before I was born. I was one of the very lucky ones that had been born into the one and only true church...and the only church with a restored priesthood that allowed mortal men called patriarchs to "read" from the Book of Heaven.
2) I was here to be "tried and tested", and the implied message here clearly was that if I did not perform well during these trials then I would "lose" my privileged position.

My patriarchal blessing goes on to bestow even more privilege on me.

"Your lineage is of the house of Joseph through his noble son, Ephraim, a very choice lineage in the sight of the Lord and with this lineage comes many responsibilities and possibilities are yours and many experiences are in store for you. The posterity of Ephraim through their faithfulness and diligence were chosen and called by the Lord to be His leaders in this the dispensation of the fullness of times and you are one of them. Always remember who you are. You are a choice spirit of our Heavenly Father and many responsibilities are on your shoulders."

Wow! I'm from a choice lineage...from the favored son of Jacob. Joseph, with his technicolor dreamcoat, was my great-great......grandfather! And just by that simple fact I was destined to be a leader of the other less fortunate souls on Earth (who were descended from those other hapless sons who sold Joseph into Egypt). How lucky could one be? But then that pesky reminder not to mess up ("Always remember who you are") because I have "many responsibilities on my shoulders." Can't I finish a single paragraph without being warned about losing my privileges? The Mormon God truly is a vengeful God, but I didn't see that back then because for as long as you remain one of the privileged you don't want to mess that up by asking the hard questions.

At this point my patriarchal blessing starts in on the "Thou shalts..." and the "Thou shalt not's..."

"You have been given the Holy Ghost. Listen to the promptings of the Holy Ghost and they will come to you stronger and more often and you will be warned and forewarned when you are in danger. Listen to these prompting and act accordingly and you will be given strength and the courage and the desire to turn away from that danger and seek company that have high ideals. Turn away from evil minded people. [At this point in my life I see how this trick works. You see, if you can't "feel" the spirit then it is immediately implied that you have made friends with the "bad" crowd. The net effect is, Mormon kids only end up with other Mormon kids for their friends.] There will be many temptations come to you. Keep the Sabbath Day holy. Attend to your duties in the Church regularly and the Lord will magnify you. Guard your virtue as you would guard your life. It is very precious to you and Lucifer and his followers will throw many stumbling blocks in your way and you will need to be on your guard at all times. Keep the Word of Wisdom strictly [which is to say, don't smoke or drink]. Do not touch the evil drugs that are on the market. They are evil and vicious and could do harm to you very quickly and would guide you and lead you away from the teachings of the gospel plan. Do not touch tobacco nor liquor of any kind nor tea or coffee. These are injurious to your body. Study about them and you will know not only from the promptings of the Holy Ghost but from study how evil they are. Listen to the promptings of the Holy Ghost at all times and you will be directed in the right direction."

At this point in my patriarchal blessing, the patriarch starts off on a list of wonderful privileges that will be mine if I stay faithful to the teachings of the Mormon Church. It is an impressive list, salted with a warning every few sentences just to remind me that these blessings are all contingent on my strict obedience to the 4,300 "commandments" of the Mormon faith.

"You will be blessed in your school work that your mind will be keen and alert and active and through your humble prayers and counselling with your mom and dad and listening to the promptings of the Holy Ghost you will know what profession to choose that you can be happy with and do the most good in and the Lord will bless you in your profession and open up your mind. Pay your tithing [a full 10% of your income] honestly and honorably and the Lord will bless you in your business affairs that you will be guided and you will be successful. Money will flow into your hands almost from the blue sky that you never thought of before and you will be guided in your business affairs to know what to do for the best. Do not hesitate. Be free in helping those that need help in every way and the Lord will magnify you.

"You will be called to many positions in the church. Honor the priesthood that you hold. Do not take it into places of ill fame of any kind that you would be ashamed to be seen and you will be blessed in your priesthood. You will receive the higher priesthood and be called to high positions in the church. You will become a teacher of the gospel plan. Your mind will be keen and alert and you will be given words of wisdom in teaching this plan to younger people and the young people will learn to love and respect you and you will love your work and you will be a model to them. They will want to be like you through your teaching. This will bring great joy to your heart to see the young people grow and have a desire to do what is right through your teachings and follow in your footsteps, tremendous responsibility on your shoulders also and you will be blessed in this work. You will be called to positions in the M.I.A. [youth program], positions of presiding in this work. You will be a great help in building up he kingdom of God here on the Earth and you will enjoy your work."

Wow! I was promised so much money that it would seem to be coming out of the blue sky! Did you read that? So the only question is, what did I do wrong that it never materialized? I'm sure that is what I was supposed to be asking myself for these past 35 years so that I would always willingly "self-correct" my course and blame myself, not God, when my promised blessings never materialized.

Or did the patriarch (speaking on behalf of the Lord) just mean that when I needed $5 to buy milk and bread I would find $5 on the sidewalk...kind of like manna from Heaven instead of cash money? That would be a serious cop-out on His part, and now I can add "deceitful" to the list of names that I now have for the vengeful Mormon God.

The next part is where the patriarch really messed up the life of a completely innocent person with his lies.

"In due time of the Lord a lovely young lady will come into your life. One who is cleanand virtuous and pure in her thoughts and actions and worthy of your lvoe and confidence. Be very humble about your love affiars. Seek help and guidance in that and you will be inspired by the Holy Ghost and know which one to choose. There may be many young ladies that will strike you as being lovely young ladies. Rememer there is only one for you and when you have made the choice then set forth ever way you can to make her happy and you will be blessed with the privilege of going to the temple to be married and sealed for time and for all eternity and the Lord will less you that your body organs will function properly and you iwll become an honored father in Israel and you will have joy and happiness and confidence and love in your home. Things that money cannot buy but you will have them through your faith and your diligence and you will be blessed with the authority to bless your children. Do not hesitate to give them blessings. You will need to be very careful. There will be a deesolating sickness that you will witness also and you will be blessed with your family, through your diligence and faithfulness and the priesthood that you hold. Use it and the Lord will bless you in that."

Okay, picture this in your mind. At the age of 11 I knew that I was different from all the other boys. Far from finding myself attracted to "many ladies", I had not even been attracted to a single girl. And what is this about the "desolating sickness?" It was on Dec 13th, 1973 that I received this patriarchal blessing, and within a few years we would hear about the "gay mans cancer". If 2+2=4, then if I was attracted to other guys, and if any sexual activity with another man would expose me to this "gay man's cancer", then my patriarch really must have read from the "Book of Heaven" because he gave me a clear path to avoid this desolating sickness. All I had to do was marry a woman and avoid men. I was later told by other "inspired" church leaders that I would eventually be blessed by the Lord and be able to fall in love with the woman I chose to marry.

It continues with more privileges that will be mine in my "old age"...if I'm faithful.

"In due time of the Lord you and your wife will be called on a mission to preach the gospel to those who are seeking the truth and you will have a wonderful time. You will be blessed and protected by the Lord as you travel either by land, by air or by water and you will be blessed in a different language that you will need to learn. You will be given the gift of tongues that you will be able to learn the language and speak it fluently and you will have great joy in this work and the Lord will magnify you in the eyes of others and there will be many people that will seek your counsel and advice in the mission field. You will be a sort of a father, and a mother to them, you and your wife, and they will look to you for guidance. Many young people will be impressed by your speaking to them and look to you as a guide and a help and you will will be magnified in their eyes and the Lord will bless you that you will be able to live up to what they expect of you and you will guide them aright and will be the means of bringing many people into the church which will be a joy and a comfort to you."

Well, isn't that special? I wish old Patriarch Archibald was still alive today so that I could send him a letter, advising him that me and my "husband" are very actively working as "missionaries" to help young people. I work for The Robert N DeBenedictis Foundation and one prime focus of the foundation is to provide direct assistance to gay and lesbian youth who find themselves alone when their Christian fundamentalist families reject them. Mickey and I will very likely be like "missionaries" when we retire with the support of this foundation, and will be very willing to serve in the role as the "parents" to these young people so that they can live fulfilling authentic lives and heal from the damages caused by their religious upbringing. I truly hope that I will "be the means of bringing many people [out] of the [Mormon] church which will be a joy and comfort to [me]."

Here comes the "happily ever after" part.

"You will be blessed with power to come forth in the morning of the first resurrection clothed with glory, immortality and eternal life and be crowned a king in our Heavenly Father's kingdom.

"These are your blessings through your faithfulness and diligence in keeping the commandments of God and I seal them upon you in the name of Jesus Christ, our Redeemer. Amen."

Well, count me out. I really messed up this time. In June 2006 they tried to kick me out, but they didn't do it right so they had to admit me back into the "realm" in January 2007. By then I was a radioactive public relations nightmare waiting to happen, so they left me alone. By June 2008 I decided the time was right to resign my membership, so the Mormon Heaven will just have to get by without me.

Like the Republican Party and Arlen Specter, the Mormon Heaven will be better off without the likes of me.

Tuesday, May 5, 2009

"I Support Non-Prophet Organizations"


The following story was very relevant in my life because I am a "Recovering Mormon" and nobody is more responsible for the mid-life grief that I suffer than the Mormon prophets.


The volunteers in the news story were turned away from a Habitat for Humanity event because they wore T-shirts with this logo.

Imagine, turning away "humanists" from a "humanity" project. Gotta love the south!

Every time I read a story like this I'm reminded of the greeting card that features an old DC-4 airplane standing on a runway and the caption reads, "Welcome to Mississippi. Please turn your clocks back 30 years."